Always Quote by Lucas Hedges
“My problem with my parents growing up was not that I was afraid to cry in front of them - they always wanted me to cry because they wanted me to be okay, but it felt kind of icky and gross to cry in front of my parents. So my problem was the polar opposite - I didn't want to cry in front of them because I didn't want to give them the satisfaction.”
About This Quote
Source Interview: The New York Times, 2022
The speaker felt conflicted about showing vulnerability to parents, fearing it would give them emotional gratification they didn’t want to provide.
In simple terms: Avoiding tears to deny parents emotional reward.
Key Takeaway
Recognize healthy emotional expression.
Themes
family dynamics
emotional honesty
psychological boundaries
Mood
conflicted
reflective
Type
personal
psychological
When to use this quote
- therapeutic counseling
- family meetings
- personal journaling
- mindful self‑compassion
Key Concepts
attachment theory
emotional regulation
parent‑child relationships
Questions to Reflect On
- How does denying emotions affect long‑term wellbeing?
- What alternative ways can you express vulnerability?
A Different Perspective
Suppressing emotions can harm mental health and relationships.
