Fabric of life Quote by Linda Gillard
““That's what we do. Embellish. Decorate. Unvarnished truth has only limited appeal. Some events are a joy to recall, but others are best modified, even forgotten. They live in some lumber-room of the mind, housed somewhere you wouldn't want to go alone and never after dark. If I make a mistake in my work or if I change my mind, I can unpick. Undo what I've done. I can make good my errors and no one is the wiser. If they looked, even through a magnifying glass, all observers would see would be the tiny holes where my needle had travelled. I can erase even that evidence by scratching carefully at the weave of the lining with my needle, until the holes are no longer visible. But life isn't like that. Mistakes once made are rarely reversible. The holes they leave in the fabric of life aren't tiny and they can't be scratched away. You have to live with them as best you can. Work round them. That's why you have to come to terms with memory. You can't obliterate the past or eradicate it from the mind, even when, for our own good, memory enfolds us in a blanket of forgetfulness. There are always traces left, marks where time gripped us and left its telltale fingerprint.””
About This Quote
Source Essay: Reflections on Memory, 2015
Acknowledges that while minor errors can be hidden, profound mistakes leave lasting marks that must be accepted and integrated.
In simple terms: Big mistakes leave lasting scars.
Accept and work around irreversible errors.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- personal growth
- therapy
- creative work
- historical analysis
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How do we balance forgetting and remembering?
- What role does memory play in personal identity?
Denial of past harms can impede healing.