Double standard Quote by Leora Tanenbaum
““Intercourse was now forbidden to everyone but married people; bundling disappeared. In its place young courting couples engaged in "petting"--which, interpreted broadly, meant that they were could do anything sexual short of intercourse. Women were now held responsible for controlling men's beastly sexuality--halting them from simply plunging ahead--at the same time that they were expected to be sexually innocent: an impossible position.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Sex and the City: A History of Sexual Freedom, Leora Tanenbaum, 2010
Societal norms forced women to police male sexuality while demanding innocence, creating a double bind.
In simple terms: Women were blamed for men's urges yet expected to stay pure.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and challenge contradictory gender expectations.
Themes
gender roles
sexuality
double bind
social norms
feminism
Mood
frustrated
critical
hopeful
Type
analytical
critical
historical
When to use this quote
- dating culture
- relationship counseling
- sex education
- legal reforms
- media representation
Key Concepts
Patriarchal control
sexual double standards
social expectations
Questions to Reflect On
- How do modern expectations still place contradictory sexual responsibilities on women?
- What can be done to shift the narrative toward shared responsibility?
A Different Perspective
Women cannot be both gatekeepers and innocent; the burden is unfair.
