Behave Quote by Judith Martin
“You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you're trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you...There are plenty of people who say, 'We don't care about etiquette, but we can't stand the way so-and-so behaves, and we don't want him around!' Etiquette doesn't have the great sanctions that the law has. But the main sanction we do have is in not dealing with these people and isolating them because their behavior is unbearable.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Etiquette Advantage by Judith Martin, 2000
Disrespectful behavior leads to social isolation because people choose to avoid those who offend them.
In simple terms: Bad manners cause people to shun you.
Key Takeaway
Treat others respectfully to maintain relationships.
Themes
respect
communication
social dynamics
Mood
frustrated
reflective
Type
advice
observational
When to use this quote
- workplace meetings
- customer service
- team projects
- online communities
Key Concepts
etiquette
social sanction
interpersonal boundaries
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you address offensive behavior without alienating the person?
- What alternatives exist when avoidance isn’t feasible?
A Different Perspective
If the offender holds power, avoidance may not be possible.
