Behinds Quote by Jonathan Safran Foer
“I would have done anything for him. Maybe that was my sickness. We made love in nothing places and turned the lights off. It felt like crying. We could not look at each other. It always had to be from behind. Like that first time. And I knew he wasn't thinking of me. He squeezed my sides so hard, and pushed so hard. Like he was trying to push me through to somewhere else. Why does anyone ever make love?”
About This Quote
Source Novel: Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer, 2005
A woman recalls a hollow sexual relationship in which intimacy was detached and painful, making her question the purpose of making love.
In simple terms: Hollow intimacy feels like pain and crying.
Key Takeaway
Emotional connection matters in intimacy.
Themes
intimacy
alienation
pain
love
self-worth
sexuality
Mood
melancholic
raw
unsettled
Type
literary fiction
confession
interior monologue
When to use this quote
- relationship recovery
- therapy
- reflecting on past loves
- understanding attachment
Key Concepts
dissociative sexuality
emotional neglect
codependency
objectification
Questions to Reflect On
- Why was I drawn to unavailable love?
- What do I actually feel during closeness?
A Different Perspective
The passage is one character's experience, but intimacy can be mutual, present, and healing.
