Forgiveness Quote by Jeffrie G. Murphy
““It is not unreasonable to want repentance from a wrongdoer before forgiving that wrongdoer, since, in the absence of repentance, hasty forgiveness may harm both the forgiver and the wrongdoer. The forgiver may be harmed by a failure to show self-respect. The wrongdoer may be harmed by being deprived of an important incentive - the desire to be forgiven - that could move him toward repentance and moral rebirth.””
About This Quote
Source Essay: Moral Psychology, Jeffrie G. Murphy, 2020
Seeking repentance before forgiveness protects both parties: the forgiver maintains self‑respect and the wrongdoer retains motivation to change.
In simple terms: Forgiveness should follow genuine remorse to avoid harming anyone.
Key Takeaway
Require sincere repentance before granting forgiveness.
Themes
ethics
forgiveness
self‑respect
rehabilitation
Mood
reflective
serious
Type
philosophical
ethical
When to use this quote
- relationship counseling
- conflict resolution
- personal growth
- justice systems
Key Concepts
moral responsibility
psychology of guilt
redemptive change
Questions to Reflect On
- Is forgiveness without repentance truly compassionate?
- How can we balance justice and mercy?
A Different Perspective
If repentance never comes, waiting may prolong harm and resentment.
