Belonging Quote by Jean Vanier
““Belonging is for becoming . . . if for some reason it becomes stifling, then the person may have to take the risk of moving on, no matter how painful the separation may be. Community as such is never an end in itself. It is people and love and communion with God that are the goal. But, of course, a separation of this kind comes only after mature discernment and not just because being in community is painful or because there is a new leader we do not like!””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Gift of Love, Jean Vanier, 1995
Belonging is a step toward deeper connection, but if it becomes restrictive, mature discernment may require painful separation to seek true communion with God and love.
In simple terms: Community is a means, not an end; leave if it stifles growth.
Key Takeaway
Assess when community hinders spiritual growth.
Themes
spirituality
community
growth
Mood
reflective
hopeful
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- spiritual retreats
- leadership transitions
- personal growth
Key Concepts
discernment
love
God
Questions to Reflect On
- Is your community fostering growth or restriction?
- How can you discern when to stay or leave?
A Different Perspective
Leaving may cause emotional pain and loss of support.
