Children Quote by Janette Oke
““I was acting like a child. Wanting his full attention. His declarations of love. I wanted to be his little princess, I guess. The one he worshiped and adored. Well, life's not like that. And after thinking it through, I actually wouldn't want it to be. We aren't put together in a marriage to stroke each other's ego. Marriage is a partnership. A blending of two lives working together. That's where the commitment comes in. It's a determination of the head - not the heart. No, I shouldn't say it that way. It still involves the heart. It still is based on love, but it's new kind of love. A mature love. One that doesn't ask, "What will you do for me?" but rather "What can I do for you?" or "What can we do for each other?””
About This Quote
Source Novel: Love's Unfolding Path by Janette Oke, 1995
Mature marriage is a partnership where love is expressed through mutual service rather than ego stroking.
In simple terms: Marriage is partnership, not ego‑stroke.
Key Takeaway
Focus on serving each other.
Themes
marriage
partnership
love
growth
Mood
reflective
hopeful
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- relationship counseling
- marriage vows
- daily partnership
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
mature love
mutual service
commitment
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you show service in your relationship?
- What does mature love look like to you?
A Different Perspective
Idealized romance can overlook practical realities of shared responsibility.
