Attraction Quote by Jane Austen
““It is a most repulsive quality, indeed,’ said he. ‘Oftentimes very convenient, no doubt, but never pleasing. There is safety in reserve, but no attraction. One cannot love a reserved person.’ ‘Not till the reserve ceases towards oneself; and then the attraction may be the greater.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: Sense and Sensibility, 1811
A reserved person lacks appeal; true attraction emerges when one lets go of self‑imposed restraint.
In simple terms: Reserved people are unattractive; openness invites love.
Key Takeaway
Be open, not overly guarded.
Themes
love
personality
social interaction
authenticity
Mood
reflective
advisory
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- Dating
- friendship building
- team collaboration
- public speaking
Key Concepts
psychology of attraction
social norms
personal freedom
Questions to Reflect On
- When does restraint become protective?
- How can one balance openness and self‑care?
A Different Perspective
Being too open can lead to vulnerability.
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