Care Quote by Henri J.M. Nouwen
““To care means first of all to empty our own cup and to allow the other to come close to us. It means to take away the many barriers which prevent us from entering into communion with the other. When we dare to care, then we discover that nothing human is foreign to us, but that all the hatred and love, cruelty and compassion, fear and joy can be found in our own hearts. When we dare to care, we have to confess that when others kill, I could have killed too. When others torture, I could have done the same. When others heal, I could have healed too. And when others give life, I could have done the same. Then we experience that we can be present to the soldier who kills, to the guard who pesters, to the young man who plays as if life has no end, and to the old man who stopped playing out of fear for death. By the honest recognition and confession of our human sameness, we can participate in the care of God who came, not to the powerful but powerless, not to be different but the same, not to take our pain away but to share it. Through this participation we can open our hearts to each other and form a new community.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Return of the Prodigal Son, 1992
True care begins with self‑compassion, recognizing shared humanity, and opening one’s heart to others, reflecting divine love.
In simple terms: Care starts by emptying yourself and seeing others as alike.
Practice empathy and shared humanity.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- counseling
- spiritual practice
- conflict mediation
- social work
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you balance self‑care with caring for others?
- In what ways does recognizing shared humanity change your actions?
Self‑care may be neglected when caring for others.