Father Quote by Fredrik Backman
““When Peter got injured in Canada and Kira started work, Peter was left at home alone with Isak. One day the child had a stomach ache and wouldn't stop screaming. Panic-stricken, Peter tried everything. He rocked him and took him out in the stroller and tried all the home remedies he had ever heard of, but nothing worked. Until he put a record on. Perhaps it was something about the old record player - the crackle in the speakers, the voices filling the room - but Isak fell completely silent. Then he smiled. And then he fell asleep in Peter's arms. That's the last time Peter can remember really feeling like a good father. The last time he had been able to tell himself that he actually knew what he was doing. He's never told Kira that, has never told anyone. But now he buys records in secret because he keeps hoping that feeling my come back, if only for a moment””
About This Quote
Source Novel: My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She's Gone by Fredrik Backman, 2013
A father discovers that music can soothe a child's distress and briefly restore his confidence in parenting, revealing the power of simple, nostalgic comforts.
In simple terms: Music calmed the child and gave the father a fleeting sense of competence.
Key Takeaway
Seek small, comforting rituals to rebuild confidence.
Themes
parenting
comfort
music
confidence
nostalgia
Mood
reflective
hopeful
melancholic
Type
narrative
emotional
inspirational
When to use this quote
- caring for a sick child
- nighttime soothing
- quiet moments
- seeking personal reassurance
- secret hobby
Key Concepts
emotional regulation
parental identity
sound therapy
Questions to Reflect On
- What small ritual could help you feel more capable?
- How can you address underlying parenting doubts?
A Different Perspective
The relief is temporary and may mask deeper parenting insecurities.
