Conflict Quote by Fredrik Backman
““So the first thing that happens in a conflict is that we choose a side, because that’s easier than trying to hold two thoughts in our heads at the same time. The second thing that happens is that we seek out facts that confirm what we want to believe—comforting facts, ones that permit life to go on as normal. The third is that we dehumanize our enemy. There are many ways of doing that, but none is easier than taking her name away from her.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: Anxious People, 2019
People simplify conflict by picking a side, seeking confirming facts, and dehumanizing opponents, often by erasing their identity.
In simple terms: Conflict leads to bias, confirmation, and dehumanization.
Key Takeaway
Beware of simplifying complex issues.
Themes
psychology
conflict
bias
humanity
identity
Mood
thoughtful
critical
concerned
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- Political debates
- personal arguments
- media consumption
- interpersonal disputes
Key Concepts
Cognitive bias
Social identity
Moral disengagement
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you recognize when you’re dehumanizing someone?
- What steps can you take to keep both perspectives?
A Different Perspective
Humanizing the other side can be difficult but essential for resolution.
