Another man Quote by Ernest Hemingway
““Look at the ugliness. Yet one has a feeling within one that blinds a man while he loves you. You, with that feeling, blind him, and blind yourself. Then, one day, for no reason, he sees you as ugly as you really are and he is not blind anymore and then you see yourself as ugly as he sees you and you lose your man and your feeling... After a while, when you are as ugly as I am, as ugly as women can be, then, as I say after a while the feeling, the idiotic feeling that you are beautiful, grows slowly in one again. It grows like a cabbage. And then, when the feeling is grown, another man sees you and thinks you are beautiful and it is all to do over.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Sun Also Rises, Ernest Hemingway, 1926
The quote describes how love can blind people to flaws, leading to a cycle of self‑deception and eventual disillusionment, only to repeat with new affection.
In simple terms: Love blinds us to reality, causing repeated cycles of illusion and loss.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and confront self‑deception in relationships.
Themes
love
self‑deception
illusion
cycle
beauty
Mood
melancholic
reflective
Type
literary
philosophical
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- self‑esteem issues
- breakups
- personal growth
- new dating experiences
Key Concepts
psychology
human nature
relationship dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How does self‑deception affect your relationships?
- Can awareness break the cycle of illusion?
A Different Perspective
The metaphor of ugliness may oversimplify complex emotional dynamics.
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