Better place Quote by Elizabeth Gilbert
““We were talking the other evening about the phrases one uses when trying to comfort someone who is in distress. I told him that in English we sometimes say, 'I've been there.' This was unclear to him at first-I've been where? But I explained that deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific loacation, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope. 'So sadness is a place?' Giovanni asked. 'Sometimes people live there for years,' I said.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: The Moth Storytelling Podcast, 2015
Sharing personal experience of deep grief can validate others' pain and offer hope for recovery.
In simple terms: Talking about shared sorrow can help people feel less alone.
Listen and share authentic stories of hardship.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- counseling sessions
- friendship support
- online forums
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you convey empathy without over‑identifying?
- What alternative metaphors might resonate?
Not everyone may relate to the same metaphor; some may find it insufficient.