Accepted Quote by Elisabeth Marbury
“Visitors should conform as much as possible to the habits and customs of the house. They should be moderate in their demands for personal attendance. They should not carry their moods into the drawing-room or to the table, and, whether they are bored or not, should be ready to contribute as much as in their power to an atmosphere of pleasure. If the above involves too much self-sacrifice, then an invitation to visit should by no means be accepted.”
About This Quote
Source Etiquette Guide: Social Customs of the Early 20th Century, 1915
Guests should adapt to host customs, limit personal demands, and contribute positively without overextending themselves.
In simple terms: Be considerate and balanced when visiting.
Respect host norms, contribute positively.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- family gatherings
- business meetings
- dinner parties
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- When do you draw the line on self‑sacrifice?
- How can you politely decline excessive demands?
Over‑accommodation can lead to resentment.