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Breakups Quote by Elisabeth Eaves

“I begin to wonder how different "real" love is from my imaginary affair. In any relationship there's both reality and the perception of reality. As long as I see the other person as smart or sexy or handsome or good and as long as I can hang on to the feeling of loving and being loved then it's…” quote by Elisabeth Eaves
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““I begin to wonder how different "real" love is from my imaginary affair. In any relationship there's both reality and the perception of reality. As long as I see the other person as smart or sexy or handsome or good and as long as I can hang on to the feeling of loving and being loved then it's real. But somehow we're able to hang on to those feelings and beliefs even when objective reality diverges. Actions don't necessarily alter beliefs and beliefs matter more. Before you fall in love you begin to imagine the other person. You create your lover extrapolating on reality dusting him or her with gold. You embellish to the point of perfection and then fall hard for the image you've made. With all my traveling I may have spent more time imagining than others. But a huge amount of all love takes place in the head. In the middle of any relationship we can spend more time hour for hour thinking about the other person than we spend in his presence. And after any breakup there's no telling how long we might pine for someone. Love itself is in the mind's eye.””

Elisabeth Eaves

About This Quote

Source Essay: The Mind's Eye of Love, 2018

Love blends imagined ideal with lived reality; beliefs often outweigh facts.

In simple terms: Love is partly imagined and partly real.

Key Takeaway

Recognize and balance fantasy with reality.

Themes

love perception reality belief

Mood

introspective melancholic

Type

philosophical psychological

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • long‑term partnership
  • breakup recovery
  • self‑reflection

Key Concepts

psychology philosophy

Questions to Reflect On

  • How much of your love is imagined?
  • When do beliefs hinder growth?
A Different Perspective

Beliefs can blind to unhealthy patterns.

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