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“The hardest rule for me to keep at Onsite wasn’t about computers or cell phones. It was that we couldn’t tell people what we did for a living. Bill asked us at orientation to keep our jobs a secret. He said if we had to talk about our work life, even during therapy, to just say we were plumbers or…” quote by Donald Miller
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““The hardest rule for me to keep at Onsite wasn’t about computers or cell phones. It was that we couldn’t tell people what we did for a living. Bill asked us at orientation to keep our jobs a secret. He said if we had to talk about our work life, even during therapy, to just say we were plumbers or accountants. It’s a genius rule, if you think about it. Right from the start we weren’t allowed to wear a costume. And let’s face it, most of us wear our jobs like a costume. My entire identity—my distorted sense of value—came almost exclusively from the fact I wrote books. It was torture to not tell people what I did. I never realized how much I’d used my job as a social crutch until the crutch was taken away. I must have hinted that I thought my work was important a thousand different ways. I kept saying, “As a plumber, there’s a lot of pressure on me to perform.” I did everything but wink when I said it. I must have been nauseating to be around. But deep inside, I wanted so desperately to talk about what I did because I knew people would like me if they only knew. I knew people would think I was important. Slowly, over the week, I realized I was addicted to my outer shell, that without my costume I felt vulnerable.””

Donald Miller

About This Quote

Source Interview: The Secret Rule at Onsite, Podcast, 2023

The quote explains how concealing one's professional identity forces reliance on deeper self‑worth, revealing the danger of using a job as a social mask.

In simple terms: Hiding your job reveals true self‑worth.

Key Takeaway

Seek identity beyond work.

Themes

identity vulnerability self‑worth authenticity

Mood

reflective introspective

Type

personal psychological

When to use this quote

  • therapy sessions
  • career transitions
  • team building
  • personal branding

Key Concepts

social masks ego psychology

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does your job shape your self‑image?
  • What would you value if work were invisible?
A Different Perspective

The rule may hinder honest communication and collaboration.

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