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“One of the most beautifully disturbing questions we can ask, is whether a given story we tell about our lives is actually true, and whether the opinions we go over every day have any foundation or are things we repeat to ourselves simply so that we will continue to play the game. It can be quite…” quote by David Whyte
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““One of the most beautifully disturbing questions we can ask, is whether a given story we tell about our lives is actually true, and whether the opinions we go over every day have any foundation or are things we repeat to ourselves simply so that we will continue to play the game. It can be quite disorienting to find that a story we have relied on is not only not true - it actually never was true. Not now not ever. There is another form of obsolescence that can fray at the cocoon we have spun about ourselves, that is, the story was true at one time, and for an extended period; the story was even true and good to us, but now it is no longer true and no longer of any benefit, in fact our continued retelling of it simply imprisons us. We are used to the prison however, we have indeed fitted cushions and armchairs and made it comfortable and we have locked the door from the inside. The imprisoning story I identified by the time the entree was served was one I had told myself for a long time. “In order to write I need peace and quiet and an undisturbed place far from others or the possibility of being disturbed. I knew however, that if I wanted to enter the next creative stage, something had to change; I simply did not have enough free space between traveling, speaking and being a good father and husband to write what I wanted to write. The key in the lock turned surprisingly easy, I simply said to myself, “What if I acted as if it wasn’t true any more, what if it had been true at one time, but now at this stage in the apprenticeship I didn’t need that kind of insulation anymore, what if I could write anywhere and at any time?” One of the interesting mercies of this kind of questioning is that it is hard to lose by asking: if the story is still true, we will soon find out and can go back to telling it. If it is not we have turned the key, worked the hinges and walked out into the clear air again with a simple swing of the door.””

David Whyte

About This Quote

Source Essay: The Art of Narrative, David Whyte, 2015

We often cling to personal narratives that feel true but may be outdated, limiting growth; questioning them can free us from self‑imposed prisons.

In simple terms: Stories we tell ourselves can become limiting prisons; questioning them can..

Key Takeaway

Question your core stories and allow new possibilities.

Themes

self‑awareness growth creativity identity limiting beliefs

Mood

reflective hopeful determined

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • writing
  • parenting
  • career transition
  • personal development

Key Concepts

narrative identity psychological flexibility self‑sabotage

Questions to Reflect On

  • What story are you holding onto that no longer serves you?
  • How can you test the truth of a limiting belief?
A Different Perspective

Stories may still hold truth; discarding them can cause loss of comfort or direction.

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