Boys Quote by David Levithan
“You can't actually have a romance between friends. That sort of defeats the definition of the word "romance." The word you're looking for is "love." It's a love between friends, just as there's also love between lovers, or possible lovers, or even ex-lovers. Same holds true for "bromance" - it's just a clever word used to avoid the word love, for straight boys who don't want that old-fashioned taint of gayness. Dudes, you love each other. Deal with it.”
About This Quote
Source Interview: Young Adult author interview, 2015
Romantic feelings between friends are often labeled differently, but they are essentially love, and avoiding the term can hide genuine affection.
In simple terms: Friendship love is still love, even if called differently.
Key Takeaway
Accept and name love between friends.
Themes
friendship
love
language
identity
masculinity
Mood
reflective
empathetic
Type
philosophical
social
When to use this quote
- college friendships
- team sports
- workplace camaraderie
- family dynamics
Key Concepts
social labeling
emotional honesty
gender norms
Questions to Reflect On
- How does language shape our acceptance of same‑gender affection?
- What benefits arise from calling it love?
A Different Perspective
Labeling can create stigma and prevent open expression of affection.
