““ lover , n . Oh, how I hated this word. So pretentious, like it was always being translated from the French. The tint and taint of illicit, illegitimate affections. Dictionary meaning: a person having a love affair . Impermanent. Unfamilial. Inextricably linked to sex. I have never wanted a lover. In order to have a lover, I must go back to the root of the word. For I have never wanted a lover, but I have always wanted lover, and to be loved. There is no word for the recipient of the love. There is only a word for the giver. There is the assumption that lovers come in pairs. When I say, Be my lover , I don't mean, Let's have an affair . I don't mean Sleep with me . I don't mean, Be my secret . I want us to go back to that root. I want you to be the one who loves me. I want to be the one who loves you.””
