Community Quote by David Brooks
““But we don’t merely meet each other as unique individuals or in healthy social circumstances. We meet each other in the current atmosphere of disconnection and distrust. We meet each other as members of groups. We meet each other embedded in systems of power in which some groups have more and some groups have less. We meet each other in a society in which members of the red team and members of the blue team often stand apart and glare across metaphorical walls with bitterness and incomprehension. Our encounters are shaped by our historical inheritances—the legacies of slavery, elitism, sexism, prejudice, bigotry, and economic and social domination. You can’t get to know another person while pretending not to see ideology, class, race, faith, identity, or any of the other fraught social categories. These days, if you want to know someone well, you have to see the person in front of you as a distinct and never-to-be repeated individual. But you’ve also got to see that person as a member of their groups. And you’ve also got to see their social location—the way some people are insiders and other people are outsiders, how some sit on the top of society and some are marginalized to the fringes. The trick is to be able to see each person on these three levels all at once.””
About This Quote
Source Speech: The Power of Conversation, David Brooks, 2018
Understanding others requires recognizing their individuality, group identity, and social position simultaneously, acknowledging historical and systemic influences.
In simple terms: See people as individuals, group members, and socially situated.
Balance personal identity with social context.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- Community dialogue
- diversity training
- policy making
- conflict resolution
- educational curricula
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can we honor individual uniqueness while acknowledging systemic influences?
- What practices help integrate multiple social lenses without reducing people to labels?
Overemphasis on categories can lead to stereotyping and paralysis in interaction.