Common ground Quote by Daphne du Maurier
““When Stephen talked about stalking chamois his whole expression changed. The features became more aquiline, the nose sharpened, the chin narrowed, and his eyes-steel blue - somehow took on the cold brilliance of a northern sky. I am being very frank about my husband. He attracted me at those times, and he repelled me too. This man, I told myself when I first met him, is a perfectionist. And he has no compassion. Gratified like all women who find themselves sought after and desired - a mutual love for Sibelius had been our common ground at our first encounter - after a few weeks in his company I shut my eyes to further judgment, because being with him gave me pleasure. It flattered my self-esteem. The perfectionist, admired by other women, now sought me. Marriage was in every sense a coup. It was only afterwards that I knew myself deceived. ("The Chamois")””
About This Quote
Source Short Story: “The Chamois” by Daphne du Maurier, 1950
A narrator describes being drawn to a charismatic, perfectionist partner, recognizing both attraction and the lack of compassion, later realizing self‑deception.
In simple terms: She is attracted to a charismatic but cold partner, later sees her own self‑deception.
Key Takeaway
Beware of allure that masks emptiness.
Themes
love
self‑deception
perfectionism
power dynamics
Mood
reflective
melancholic
Type
narrative
personal
cautionary
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- self‑reflection
- personal growth
- recognizing toxic traits
Key Concepts
charisma
emotional manipulation
identity
desire
Questions to Reflect On
- What signs of self‑deception did you ignore?
- How can you balance attraction with self‑respect?
A Different Perspective
The narrator’s admiration may overlook deeper issues, leading to regret.
