Detachment Quote by Danielle LaPorte
““Detachment is hard on your heart — and it actually creates blocks to what you want. Non-attachment, on the other hand, is actually nourishing, and much easier to put into practice. DETACHED is rigid; a bit chilly, a tad cranky; like an uptight intellectual, cut off from his/her heart. And here’s the thing, detachment is often a cover up for fear — fear of not getting what you want. Detachment is defending itself against disappointment — which is why it’s a bit bitchy. There’s another way of wanting that’s both rational and faith-fuelled: Non-attachment. NON-ATTACHMENT is open and spacious. It can hold your intense longing, and it can hold possibility. Non-attachment knows that some things take time, that you have to meet the universe half way, that free will is the guiding force, and that anything is possible. As Michael Beckwith said to me, “Detached is, ‘I’m not playing anymore. I’m taking my ball and going home.’ Whereas non-attached is ‘I’m playing full-out, but I’m not attached to an outcome.’” Ya, THAT.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: Podcast with Danielle LaPorte, 2022
Detachment creates emotional rigidity and fear, while non-attachment embraces openness, allowing desire without clinging to outcomes.
In simple terms: Rigid detachment blocks desire; open non-attachment nurtures it.
Choose openness over fear.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- career goals
- creative projects
- meditation practice
- coaching sessions
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you stay open while pursuing goals?
- What fears arise when you let go of rigid control?
Non-attachment still requires confronting disappointment when outcomes differ from expectations.