Skip to content

Adult life Quote by Cheryl Strayed

“You give a lot of great advice about what to do. Do you have any advice of what not to do? Don’t do what you know on a gut level to be the wrong thing to do. Don’t stay when you know you should go or go when you know you should stay. Don’t fight when you should hold steady or hold steady when you…” quote by Cheryl Strayed
Download Open image
““You give a lot of great advice about what to do. Do you have any advice of what not to do? Don’t do what you know on a gut level to be the wrong thing to do. Don’t stay when you know you should go or go when you know you should stay. Don’t fight when you should hold steady or hold steady when you should fight. Don’t focus on the short-term fun instead of the long-term fall out. Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore. Don’t seek joy at all costs. I know it’s hard to know what to do when you have a conflicting set of emotions and desires, but it’s not as hard as we pretend it is. Saying it’s hard is ultimately a justification to do whatever seems like the easiest thing to do—have the affair, stay at that horrible job, end a friendship over a slight, keep loving someone who treats you terribly. I don’t think there’s a single dumbass thing I’ve done in my adult life that I didn’t know was a dumbass thing to do while I was doing it. Even when I justified it to myself—as I did every damn time—the truest part of me knew I was doing the wrong thing. Always. As the years pass, I’m learning how to better trust my gut and not do the wrong thing, but every so often I get a harsh reminder that I’ve still got work to do.””

Cheryl Strayed

About This Quote

Source Interview: The Power of Bad Decisions, 2020

Listening to gut instincts and avoiding contradictory actions prevents self-sabotage and promotes authentic living.

In simple terms: Trust gut, avoid contradictory choices.

Key Takeaway

Align actions with inner truth.

Themes

selfawareness integrity decisionmaking emotionalintelligence

Mood

conflicted hopeful

Type

advice motivational

When to use this quote

  • career crossroads
  • relationships
  • habit change
  • mental health

Key Concepts

psychology personal growth

Questions to Reflect On

  • What inner conflicts are you ignoring?
  • How can you test if an action aligns with your true self?
A Different Perspective

Sometimes gut feelings are clouded by fear, making them hard to trust.

2.1 out of 5 (4 ratings)

More by Cheryl Strayed

Explore all 450 Cheryl Strayed quotes

More Adult life quotes

Browse all 431 Adult life quotes