Anger Quote by Catherine Ryan Hyde
““Most people prefer to think that their resentment is entirely the fault of the person they resent, and that twisted logic seems to make sense in their minds. But it makes no sense to me at all. It’s like saying it’s your fault if I shoot you, because the gun is aiming at you. It completely disregards who’s doing the aiming. But it’s a popular point of view. Probably because it’s so much easier. It relieves you of the burden of any and all self-examination.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Story of a Girl, Catherine Ryan Hyde, 1999
People often blame others for their resentment, ignoring their own role in creating conflict, which simplifies self‑examination but is inaccurate.
In simple terms: Blaming others avoids personal responsibility.
Key Takeaway
Check your own part in conflicts.
Themes
responsibility
self‑awareness
conflict
psychology
ego
Mood
reflective
critical
serious
Type
advice
psychological
philosophical
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- therapy
- workplace disputes
- family arguments
Key Concepts
accountability
projection
cognitive bias
Questions to Reflect On
- What does it cost you to avoid self‑examination?
- How might acknowledging your role change the outcome?
A Different Perspective
It can be hard to admit personal fault without feeling vulnerable.
