““Question One: Am I denying an essential fact or responsibility? The answer may be hidden or entwined in other issues, but if you look hard enough, you’ll spot it. Question Two: Am I creating a delusional reality to support the denial? The situation may look and feel real and you may be accepting the distortion as being true. Or it can be obfuscated by desire or fear. Question Three: Am I deflecting my responsibility by blaming someone or something else? Deflecting responsibility allows you to not change what you’re doing, to not be held accountable or to avoid the consequences of your action.””
