Affection Quote by C.S. Lewis
““What I have called Appreciative love is no basic element in Affection. It usually needs absence or bereavement to set us praising those to whom only Affection binds us. We take them for granted: and this taking for granted, which is an outrage in erotic love, is here right and proper up to a point. It fits the comfortable, quiet nature of the feeling. Affection would not be affection if it was loudly and frequently expressed; to produce it in public is like getting your household furniture out for a move. It did very well in its place, but it looks shabby or tawdry or grotesque in the sunshine.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Four Loves, 1960
Distinguishes appreciative love from affection, arguing that true affection requires distance or loss to be valued, while overt display can diminish its authenticity.
In simple terms: Appreciative love thrives on absence; overt affection can feel cheap.
Key Takeaway
Recognize the value of subtle, earned affection.
Themes
philosophy
relationships
psychology
ethics
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
literary
philosophical
When to use this quote
- marriage
- friendship
- family dynamics
- personal growth
Key Concepts
affection
appreciation
erotic love
human connection
Questions to Reflect On
- How does distance shape emotional appreciation?
- When is public expression of love appropriate?
A Different Perspective
Overemphasis on absence may lead to neglectful behavior.
