Adolescence Quote by C. JoyBell C
““Growing up means learning what life is. When you're little, you have a set of ideals, standards, criteria, plans, outlooks, and you think that you have to sit around and wait for them to happen to you and then life will work. But life isn't like that, for anybody; you can't fall in love with a standard, you have to fall in love with a person. You can't live in a criteria, you have to live your life. You can't wait for your plans to materialize, because they may never materialize the way you think they will. You can't wait to watch your ideals and standards walk up to you, because you can't know what's yours until you have it. I always say, always take the first chance in case you never get a second one, but growing up takes that even one step further, growing up means that you have to hold on to what you have, when you have it, because what you have- that's yours- and all the ideals and criteria you have set in your head, those aren't yours, because those haven't happened to you.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: Personal development podcast, 2020
Maturity requires moving beyond abstract ideals to genuine relationships and lived experience.
In simple terms: Grow by loving people, not just ideas.
Prioritize real connections.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- dating
- career decisions
- personal goals
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- What standards are you clinging to?
- How can you act now?
Idealism can blind practical decision‑making.