“One reason we rush so quickly to the vulgar satisfactions of judgment, and love to revel in our righteous outrage, is that… — Tim Kreider Empathy Copy Share Image
“If you manage to make it to some semblance of adulthood, just showing up turns out to be one of the kindest,… — Tim Kreider Adulthood Copy Share Image
“We mistakenly imagine we want 'happiness,' when we tend to picture in vague, soft-focus terms, when what we really crave is the… — Tim Kreider Happiness Copy Share Image
“I can’t help but wonder whether all this histrionic exhaustion isn’t a way of covering up the fact that most of what… — Tim Kreider Exhaustion Copy Share Image
“The only people who seem to believe in the phenomenon of men and women just being good friends all seem to have… — Tim Kreider Friends Copy Share Image
“This is one reason people need to believe in God—because we want someone to know us, truly, all the way through, even… — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“I've demonstrated an impressive resilience in the face of valuable life lessons, and the main thing I seem to have learned from… — Tim Kreider Ignorance Copy Share Image
“Introducing these people to our friends and family is, in a way, more heedlessly exhibitionistic than posting nude photos or sex tapes… — Tim Kreider Dreams Copy Share Image
“Squandering time is a luxury of profligate youth, when the years are to us as dollars are to billionaires. Doing the same… — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“Defriending isn’t just unrecognized by some social oversight; it’s protected by its own protocol, a code of silence. Demanding an explanation wouldn’t… — Tim Kreider Friend Copy Share Image
“A friend of mine reports that all the women he's polled have been enthusiastic advocates of the bold romantic gesture, but this,… — Tim Kreider Friendship Copy Share Image
“My feeling toward Republicans is like my feeling about sharks: of course they're stupid and vicious. It's in their nature to be… — Tim Kreider Computers Copy Share Image
“Learning how to transform mere ignorance into mystery, simple not knowing into wonder, is a useful skill. Because it turns out that… — Tim Kreider Curiosity Copy Share Image
“What someone’s lies reveal about them (aspirations to being an accomplished writer, fantasies of an exotic history and a cosmopolitan family) are… — Tim Kreider Dark matter Copy Share Image
“I sometimes like to daydream that if we were all somehow simultaneously outed as lechers and perverts and sentimental slobs, it might… — Tim Kreider Daydream Copy Share Image
“Defriending isn’t just unrecognized by some social oversight; it’s protected by its own protocol, a code of silence. Demanding an explanation wouldn’t… — Tim Kreider Friend Copy Share Image
“Biblical, Talmudic, or Koranic literalists remind me of children wrinkling their noses at Belon oysters and asking for more Chef Boy-E-Dee. They… — Tim Kreider Children Copy Share Image
“Because there’s no formal etiquette for ending a friendship, most people do it in the laziest, most passive and painless way possible,… — Tim Kreider Ending friendship Copy Share Image
“What I could relate to was the common fear that you are secretly so uniquely screwed-up that there is no way anyone… — Tim Kreider Fear Copy Share Image
“Jenny Boylan might be the one person in this world whom I now think of purely as a human being, free of… — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“Oh, yes.” I’ve known kisses so narcotic they made my eyes roll back in my head. For a few weeks one winter… — Tim Kreider Kisses Copy Share Image
“The Soul Toupee is that thing about ourselves we are most deeply embarrassed by and like to think we have cunningly concealed… — Tim Kreider Self deception Copy Share Image
“Most of us liberals are so worried that we might secretly be racists that we’re convinced this means we cannot really be… — Tim Kreider Liberals Copy Share Image
“Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice; it is as indispensable to the brain as vitamin D is… — Tim Kreider Idleness Copy Share Image
“It turns out that when there is some conspicuous gap or contradiction at the center of someone's existence, there is probably a… — Tim Kreider Personality Copy Share Image
“The truth is, people are ravenous for sex, sociopaths for love. I sometimes like to daydream that if we were all somehow… — Tim Kreider Love Copy Share Image
