Stephen Arterburn

“Macho men, without their grief, must find a way to gain power and control over their environment. They have a unique way…

— Stephen Arterburn

“Outcasts can interpret reality for themselves. Even when their perception of reality contradicts that of hundreds or thousands of followers, they can…

— Stephen Arterburn

“In a toxic-faith system, loyalty is equated with blind faith and complete agreement with the leader.”

— Stephen Arterburn

“God has given us the freedom to make choices. Some choices will be better than others. The worst ones will cause us…

— Stephen Arterburn

“People in pain have enough problems without some well-meaning folks trying to short-circuit the grief process by declaring that everything is a…

— Stephen Arterburn

“You certainly don’t “need” to evangelize. You can rest assured that God is perfectly capable of bringing people to himself in His…

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“13Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.”

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“In a toxic system, the toxic minister sets himself or herself up as having a special destiny or mission that can be…

— Stephen Arterburn

“17So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless.”

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“If you do develop a major problem, it is the result of your deep spiritual weakness. 3. Since this weakness makes the…

— Stephen Arterburn

“When ministers wield absolute authority, everyone loses, even God.”

— Stephen Arterburn

“   23Pride ends in humiliation,         while humility brings honor.”

— Stephen Arterburn

“Misguided loyalty allows the delusions of the leader to grow and destroys the faith of the loyal.”

— Stephen Arterburn

“If you are not going to pretend you are problem-free, at least show everyone you are deeply ashamed. 5. If you are…

— Stephen Arterburn

“Upon my eighteenth birthday I was given three choices: 1. Join the church, and live at home. 2. Move out and live…

— Stephen Arterburn

“We are as sick as our secrets.”

— Stephen Arterburn

“There isn't a person in this world who within a minute of your being with them, won't do or say something for…

— Stephen Arterburn

“Others are more knowledgeable about the situation than I am. I must go along with their decisions. It is my place to…

— Stephen Arterburn

“They said a secretary should not question her boss’s personal life and a boss should not question his secretary’s personal life. But…

— Stephen Arterburn

“All problems are not results of sin; many are simply results of reality.”

— Stephen Arterburn

“Instead of expressing deep hurt, the wounded female lives a miserable existence and gripes and complains about everything. She becomes addicted to…

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