Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love… — Gary Chapman Choices Copy Share Image
One [reality] is that I am responsible for my attitude. I can be in prison, and I happen to get a chance… — Gary Chapman Attitude Copy Share Image
“As the instinctual nature of the bird dictates the building of a nest, so the instinctual nature of the in-love experience pushes… — Gary Chapman Bird Copy Share Image
“Exuberance and vitality require energy; this means as parents we need to be in the best possible health physically, mentally, emotionally, and… — Gary Chapman Energy Copy Share Image
I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him:… — Gary Chapman Expression Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a… — Gary Chapman High energy Copy Share Image
I remember, in the early days of my marriage, I thought I married the wrong person. We held to our own ideas… — Gary Chapman Expectations Copy Share Image
“Positive, affirming relationships bring great pleasure while poor relationship brings great pain. Greatest happiness found in good relationships, greatest pain found in… — Gary Chapman Bad relationship Copy Share Image
What is emotional intimacy? It is that depp sense of being connected to one another. It is feeling loved, respected and appreciated,… — Gary Chapman Ability Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years… — Gary Chapman Book Copy Share Image
Before I discovered the concept of the 5 love languages, a bit of advice I was given was to become a student… — Gary Chapman Advice Copy Share Image
“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle in your own heart. Say to God, “If you will give me a vision… — Gary Chapman Bible Copy Share Image
“Professor Leo Buscaglia notes, "There seems to be accumulating evidence that there is actually an inborn need for this togetherness, this is… — Gary Chapman Togetherness Copy Share Image
Respect begins with this attitude: "I acknowledge that you are a creature of extreme worth. God has endowed you with certain abilities… — Gary Chapman Ability Copy Share Image
“What was her desire? Quality time with Bill. She wanted his attention. She wanted him to focus on her, to give her… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do… — Gary Chapman Failure Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Make time every day to share with each other some of the events of the day. When you spend more time on… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, then there is really no hope for you to have a good relationship. That… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser… — Gary Chapman Abuser Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide… — Gary Chapman Habits Copy Share Image
“The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It… — Gary Chapman Love Copy Share Image
In reality, relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude, 'How can I help you?' 'How can I enrich your life?'… — Gary Chapman Attitude Copy Share Image
Another reality about relationships is that they are never static. All of us experience changes in relationships but a few stop to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything.… — Gary Chapman Love Copy Share Image
I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. They insist on bringing into today the failures… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Togetherness has to do with focused attention. It is giving someone your undivided attention. As humans, we have a fundamental desire to… — Gary Chapman Attention Copy Share Image
“I would like to make three other observations. First, they illustrate clearly that what we do for each other before marriage is… — Gary Chapman Marriage Copy Share Image
If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other,… — Gary Chapman Desire Copy Share Image
The reality is, if you go to the library and read biographies, thousands of people have changed, radically changed. St. Augustine was… — Gary Chapman Augustine Copy Share Image
“Negative feelings are more often alleviated when they are ignored rather than pampered. When you act positively in spite of negative emotions,… — Gary Chapman Husband and wife Copy Share Image
“When we express appreciation, it means that we recognize the value of the other person's contribution to our relationship/ Each of us… — Gary Chapman Appreciation Copy Share Image
In a difficult marriage, both of us have failed each other. Even though one may be the major problem,you also have failed… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We can look at the pain in our lives. We can look at the way we have been mistreated, and we can… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“It was tough handling angry, troubled kids all day, but that didn’t drain me nearly as much as being snubbed by the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up… — Gary Chapman Choices Copy Share Image
“Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other’s eyes. It means that we… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
When you're married, the person you would most like to love you is your spouse. And if you feel loved by your… — Gary Chapman Dark Copy Share Image
![“One [reality] is that I am responsible for my attitude. I can be in prison, and I happen to get a chance to go outside. I can look at the mud, or I can look at the stars. I am the one who decides which way to look. That is true for every one of us.” quote by Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/907/gary-chapman-1325_attitude_one-reality-is-that-i-am-responsible-for_239942.jpg)
![“I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage. In spite of the fact that we were Christians before we got married, we prayed about getting married, we believed it was God's will for us to get married, and we…” quote by Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/66d/gary-chapman-1325_book_i-wrote-this-book-desperate-marriages-be_209297.png)
![“The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not going to change until they are pushed in a corner.” quote by Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e10/gary-chapman-1325_abuser_the-getting-out-part-of-advise-may-well_178102.png)
