Appreciated Quote by Anthony de Mello
“There is yet another illusion, that it is important to be respectable, to be loved and appreciated, to be important. Many say we have a natural urge to be loved and appreciated, to belong. That’s false. Drop this illusion and you will find happiness. We have a natural urge to be free, a natural urge to love, but not to be loved.”
About This Quote
Source Book: Awareness, Anthony de Mello, 1990
The desire for external validation is an illusion; true happiness comes from inner freedom and love, not from being loved.
In simple terms: We chase love and respect, but freedom is the real source of joy.
Key Takeaway
Seek inner freedom and authentic love.
Themes
happiness
freedom
self‑acceptance
illusion
Mood
peaceful
thoughtful
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- personal growth
- mental health
- relationships
- mindfulness
Key Concepts
existentialism
psychology
spirituality
Questions to Reflect On
- What does freedom mean to you?
- How can you practice love without needing approval?
A Different Perspective
Letting go of societal expectations can cause social friction.
