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“As the body and mind deteriorate, the dying are not less themselves. Dementia steals the faculties for expressing the self—language, memory, personality—but the self remains, albeit largely inaccessible to others. The experience of actually being with the demented and dying is one of watching…” quote by Anonymous
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““As the body and mind deteriorate, the dying are not less themselves. Dementia steals the faculties for expressing the self—language, memory, personality—but the self remains, albeit largely inaccessible to others. The experience of actually being with the demented and dying is one of watching someone move farther and farther away, out of earshot and eventually out of sight. It’s wrong to think, “Because I cannot access something, it does not exist.” Being with someone who is near death undermines such nonsense. If people are as much themselves when there is no chance of further accomplishment, activity, or self-expression, then the fact that the unborn may grow up to great accomplishment, activity, or self-expression is irrelevant. That a precious child with Down syndrome may some day compete in the Special Olympics is irrelevant. Another precious child with a different genetic abnormality will spend all his days in a state that most of us will inhabit only at the end of our lives, if ever: incapable of communication, incontinent, compromised in language, memory, intellect, and personality. The compassion we show to the dying is not earned by the things they “used to be” any more than it should be earned by the things that the unborn might become. We will all end up in a state of total incapacity and inaccessibility, some for a long time and some only briefly.””

Anonymous

About This Quote

Source Essay: Reflections on Dying and Identity, unknown author

The quote argues that a person's core self persists despite loss of mental faculties, urging compassion for the dying regardless of their abilities.

In simple terms: Self remains despite dementia; compassion should be unconditional.

Key Takeaway

Treat the dying with inherent dignity.

Themes

compassion identity mortality ethics

Mood

somber reflective

Type

philosophical ethical

When to use this quote

  • end‑of‑life care
  • family support
  • healthcare policy
  • ethical debates

Key Concepts

personhood dignity existentialism

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can we honor the self of someone who cannot express themselves?
  • What does unconditional compassion look like in practice?
A Different Perspective

It may overlook the practical challenges of caring for those who cannot communicate.

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