It is foolish to wish for beauty. Sensible people never…
““It is foolish to wish for beauty. Sensible people never either desire it for themselves or care about it in others. If the mind be but well cultivated, and the heart well disposed, no one ever cares for the exterior. So said the teachers of our childhood; and so say we to the children of the present day. All very judicious and proper, no doubt; but are such assertions supported by actual experience? We are naturally disposed to love what gives us pleasure, and what more pleasing than a beautiful face—when we know no harm of the possessor at least? A little girl loves her bird—Why? Because it lives and feels; because it is helpless and harmless? A toad, likewise, lives and feels, and is equally helpless and harmless; but though she would not hurt a toad, she cannot love it like the bird, with its graceful form, soft feathers, and bright, speaking eyes. If a woman is fair and amiable, she is praised for both qualities, but especially the former, by the bulk of mankind: if, on the other hand, she is disagreeable in person and character, her plainness is commonly inveighed against as her greatest crime, because, to common observers, it gives the greatest offence; while, if she is plain and good, provided she is a person of retired manners and secluded life, no one ever knows of her goodness, except her immediate connections. Others, on the contrary, are disposed to form unfavourable opinions of her mind, and disposition, if it be but to excuse themselves for their instinctive dislike of one so unfavoured by nature; and visa versa with her whose angel form conceals a vicious heart, or sheds a false, deceitful charm over defects and foibles that would not be tolerated in another. ””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Brontë, 1848
Beauty is often valued over inner virtue, but true fulfillment comes from cultivated mind and heart.
In simple terms: Beauty is superficial; inner virtue matters.
Cultivate mind and heart over external appearance.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- education
- parenting
- self‑development
- relationship building
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can we shift focus from appearance to character?
- What practices nurture inner beauty?
Society still heavily rewards physical attractiveness.