Achievement Quote by Ann Landers
““I have leveled with the girls - from Anchorage to Amarillo. I tell them that all marriages are happy It's the living together afterward that's tough. I tell them that a good marriage is not a gift, It's an achievement. that marriage is not for kids It takes guts and maturity. It separates the men from the boys and the women from the girls. I tell them that marriage is tested dily by the ability to compromise. Its survival can depend on being smart enough to know what's worth fighting about. Or making an issue of or even mentioning. Marriage is giving - and more important, it's forgiving. And it is almost always the wife who must do these things. Then, as if that were not enough, she must be willing to forget what she forgave. Often that is the hardest part. Oh, I have leveled all right. If they don't get my message, Buster, It's because they don't want to get it. Rose-colored glasses are never made in bifocals Because nobody wants to red the small print in dreams.””
About This Quote
Source Syndicated Advice Column, 1985
Marriage is a challenging, earned partnership requiring compromise, forgiveness, and often the wife's greater effort; idealized views are unrealistic.
In simple terms: Marriage needs work, compromise, and forgiveness.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate realistic expectations and mutual effort.
Themes
marriage
relationships
gender roles
Mood
candid
practical
Type
advice
relationship
When to use this quote
- couples counseling
- marital conflict
- family planning
Key Concepts
commitment
forgiveness
maturity
compromise
Questions to Reflect On
- How can couples share forgiveness duties?
- What role should both partners play in compromise?
A Different Perspective
Expectations of equal effort may overlook systemic biases.
