Dependance Quote by Amy Tan
““What should we do?", I asked, and I had a pained feeling I thought was the beginning of love. In those early months we clung to each other with a rather silly desperation, because, in spite of everything my mother or Mrs Jordan could say, there was nothing that really prevented us from seeing each other. With imagined tragedy hovering over us, we became inseparable, two halves creating the whole: yin and yang. I was victim to his hero. I was always in danger and he was always rescuing me. I would fall and he would lift me up. It was exhilarating and draining. The emotional effect of saving and being saved was addicting to both of us. And that, as much as anything we ever did in bed, was how we made love to each other: conjoined where my weaknesses needed protection.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, 1989
A portrayal of a passionate, codependent love where each partner alternately saves and needs saving, creating a deep, intertwined bond.
In simple terms: Love can be both protective and draining, forming a shared identity.
Key Takeaway
Recognize mutual dependence; nurture independence.
Themes
love
codependency
interdependence
identity
passion
Mood
intimate
introspective
Type
literary
psychological
When to use this quote
- romantic relationships
- friendships
- therapy sessions
Key Concepts
psychology of attachment
yin‑yang balance
emotional cycles
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you maintain self‑identity in close relationships?
- What boundaries protect healthy interdependence?
A Different Perspective
Reliance can hinder personal growth.
