Imagined Quote by Alice McDermott
““Did he hear it, she wondered as she glimpsed her husband’s face through half-closed eyes and saw what was quickly becoming a familiar look: a kind of determined concentration, a grimace to the lips, and a far-off gaze to his eyes that marked a consummation that she was beginning to suspect turned him in on himself far more than it would ever turn him out toward her. She imagined it was akin to the look the piano player upstairs wore as he worked the keys, that kind of crazy-eyed focus on the task that could obliterate all distractions, even the very instrument under his hands. Does he even hear the music, she thought, arching toward him as he labored above her. Does he even see my face? This was something she had never anticipated””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Lost Daughter, Alice McDermott, 2008
A woman observes her husband’s intense, self‑absorbed focus, fearing he is turning inward and neglecting her presence.
In simple terms: She feels ignored as he becomes absorbed in his work.
Key Takeaway
Recognize when loved ones drift into self‑absorption.
Themes
relationship
attention
intimacy
communication
Mood
lonely
concerned
reflective
Type
observational
emotional
narrative
When to use this quote
- marriage
- daily routines
- creative work
- emotional neglect
Key Concepts
self‑absorption
emotional distance
perception
Questions to Reflect On
- How can partners signal their need for connection?
- What habits can prevent emotional drift?
A Different Perspective
He may be deeply engaged without realizing his neglect.
