Controlling Quote by Alfie Kohn
“When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.”
About This Quote
Source Book: Punished by Rewards, Alfie Kohn, 1993
Controlling behavior undermines intrinsic motivation, preventing achievement of lasting results.
In simple terms: Control kills lasting-term success.
Key Takeaway
Avoid controlling tactics.
Themes
motivation
control
long-term outcomes
Mood
reflective
concerned
Type
advisory
psychological
When to use this quote
- education
- workplace
- parenting
- team leadership
Key Concepts
self-determination theory
behavioral psychology
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you foster autonomy while meeting goals?
- What alternatives to control exist?
A Different Perspective
Control may be needed for safety or compliance in some contexts.
