Character Quote by Alain de Botton
““While paying attention to the messages in its public spaces, Christianity also wisely recognizes the extent to which our concepts of good and bad are shaped by the people we spend time with. It knows that we are dangerously permeable with regard to our social circle, all too apt to internalize and mimic others’ attitudes and behaviour. Simultaneously, it accepts that the particular company we keep is largely a result of haphazard forces, a peculiar cast of characters drawn from our childhood, schooling, community and work. Among the few hundred people we regularly encounter, not very many are likely to be the sorts of exceptional individuals who exhaust our imagination with their good qualities, who strengthen our soul and whose voices we want consciously to adopt to bolster our best impulses.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Art of Travel by Alain de Botton, 2002
Christian thought suggests our moral compass is heavily influenced by our social circles, yet exceptional role models are rare among the many people we encounter.
In simple terms: Our values are shaped by who we spend time with, but true exemplars are scarce.
Cultivate intentional relationships with uplifting individuals.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- friendships
- workplace
- educational settings
- community groups
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- Who in your life positively shapes your values?
- How can you seek out more inspiring companions?
The quote may assume Christianity uniquely addresses this, ignoring similar ideas in other philosophies.