“The bottom line is that there is really only one good reason to get a restraining order in a case of wife abuse: the woman believes the man will honor it and leave her alone.” — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Contrary to what people believe about the intuition of dogs, your intuitive abilities are vastly superior (and given that you add to your experience every day, you are at the top of your form right now). Ginger does sense and react to fear in humans because she knows instinctively that a frightened person (or animal) is more likely to be… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share
“Generally speaking, rapport-building has a far better reputation than it deserves. It is perceived as admirable when in fact it is almost always done… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman describes seven key abilities most beneficial for human beings: the ability to motivate ourselves, to persist against frustration, to delay… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“Every day, people engaged in the clever defiance of their own intuition become, in mid-thought, victims of violence and accidents. So when we wonder why we are victims so often, the answer is clear: It is because we are so good at it. A woman could offer no greater cooperation to her soon-to-be attacker than to spend her time telling… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share
“niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“When young, they are attached by heavy chains to large stakes driven deep into the ground. They pull and yank and strain and struggle, but the chain is too strong, the stake too rooted. One day they give up, having learned that they cannot pull free, and from that day forward they can be “chained” with a slender rope. When… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share
“Every human behavior can be explained by what precedes it, but that does not excuse it,” — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“The institutions of psychiatry, law enforcement, and government have proved that no matter what your resources, you cannot reliably control the conduct of crazy… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
“The institutions of psychiatry, law enforcement, and goverment have proved that no matter what our resources, you cannot reliable control the conduct of CRAZY… — Gavin de Becker Copy Share Image
