There's a secret to get through loss, pain and grief. If we're alone we can't see who we are. When we join the club, other people become the mirror. Through them, we see ourselves and gain an understanding of what we're going through. Then slowly, real slowly, we learn to accept who we see in the mirror. Then you become… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
We can stop picking on ourselves for picking on ourselvesWe can cherish ourselves and our lives. We can nuture ourselves and love ourselves. We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else. It's the best thing we've got going for us. It's who we are, and who we were… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
We are more than our problems. Even if our problem is our own behavior, the problem is not who we are-it's what… — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
Remember to be kind. Remember to be loving. Remember to feel all your feelings and to take care of yourself. But most of all,… — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“Frequently, when I suggest to people that they detach from a person or problem, they recoil in horror. “Oh, no!” they say. “I could never do that. I love him, or her, too much. I care too much to do that. This problem or person is too important to me. I have to stay attached!” My answer to that is,… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“Once they have been affected---once "it" sets in---codependency takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it. If you want to get rid of it, YOU have to do something to make it go away. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Your… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
Prayer changes things. Prayer changes us. Prayer changes life. Sometimes an event has been manifested that needs to be stopped, midair. Don't pray just… — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“We don’t have to be so afraid of people. They are just people like us.” — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
“I want to thank each person who has the courage to push through and past the set of coping behaviors we’ve come to label as codependency—who learn what it means to take care of themselves. “Nobody taught me how to take care of myself,” a fifty-year-old woman told me recently. “I didn’t have enough money to go to therapy, but… — Melody Beattie Copy Share
Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs. — Melody Beattie Copy Share Image
