Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
When we do not reject our suffering, or add anything to it, pain is simply pain. It is what we add to our pain… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Unless we base our sense of identity upon the truth of who we are, it is impossible to attain true happiness. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
When we are able to receive life's challenges as koans rather than problems, they become interesting and exciting, rather than ponderous and depressing. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action. — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it… — Brenda Shoshanna Copy Share Image
