“When we feel deeply drawn to someone, we cathect them; that is, we invest feelings or emotion in them. That process of investment wherein a loved one becomes important to us is called "cathexis". I his book Peck rightly emphasizes that most of us "confuse cathecting with loving." We all know how often individuals of cathecting insist that they love… — Bell Hooks Copy Share
Of all the definitions of love that abound in our universe, a special favorite of mine is... “the will to extend one's… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
“The widespread assumption that ethical behavior takes the fun out of life is false. In actuality, living ethically ensures that relationships in… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
Right now, for many Americans, class is being foregrounded like never before because of the economic situation. It doesn't mean that race doesn't matter,… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
“Most folks believe we are hardwired biologically to long for sex but they do not believe we are hardwired to long for love. Almost… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
... we need to interrogate "reverence," for idolization can be another way one is objectified and not really taken seriously. — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
The power of patriarchy has been to make maleness feared and to make men feel that it is better to be feared that to… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
“I feel enormously blessed to be a successful black woman writer in this culture, but I have found my small fame, such as it… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
In this culture, the phrase 'black woman' is not synonymous with 'tender,' or 'gentle.' It's as if those words couldn't possibly speak to the… — bell hooks Copy Share Image
It's interesting to look at all the aspects where everyday Americans, many of whom are not college educated, are thinking deeply now about our… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
The true teacher is within us. A good teacher is someone who can help you to go back and touch the true teacher within,… — Bell Hooks Copy Share Image
“Advancing the notion that there can be many "feminisms" has served the conservative and liberal political interests of women seeking status and privileged class power who were among the first group to use the term "power feminists." They also were the group that began to suggest that one could be feminist and anti-abortion. This another misguided notion. Granting women the… — bell hooks Copy Share
