The free expression of resentment against one's parents represents a great opportunity. It provides access to one's true self, reactivates numbed feelings, opens the way for mourning and - with luck - reconciliation. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
