“A writer has to strain to make the reader recover the process in the words 'human being'; we talk about 'a being' and 'beings.' This book is about human being as an activity. It is not about the doing which… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
Successfully functioning in a society with diverse values, traditions and lifestyles requires us to have a relationship to our own reactions rather than be… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“The struggle of the sexes to know each other, to see each other, and to communicate deeply - a struggle which may be more a feature of adult life in the West than at any time in the past - may rest in the capacity of men and women to learn the universal language they share, an evolutionary esperanto, the… — Robert Kegan Copy Share
“Although I have suggested that American culture tends to favor the side of independence over the side of inclusion (and I would extend that to Western culture in general), it is not a generalization that seems to apply uniformly to men and women in our culture. Indeed, although I have no idea why it may be, it seems to me… — Robert Kegan Copy Share
It is not change that causes anxiety; it is the feeling that we are without defenses in the presence of what we see as… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“But what can be found can also be lost. The process of differentiation, creating the possibility of integration, brings into being the lifelong theme… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“If you want to understand another person in some fundamental way you must know where the person is in his or her evolution...the way… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“While the emergence from embeddedness in the interpersonal frees one from the subjectivity of constructing one's morality on the bases of arbitrary affections and… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“Depression characterized by the 'threat-to' orientation lodges itself in one side of the proposition. Doing so does not eliminate doubt, it only places it in the world. The world has become doubtful; what I doubt is my capacity to continue living in such a world. I doubt whether I can make it given how things are. I experience a kind… — Robert Kegan Copy Share
“It is easy for us to delude ourselves into thinking that our notions of the healthy person are unbiased by our particular circumstances or… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“Instead of regarding them as things that just need to go away, we look at the behaviors as a precious resource, valuable information that… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“All growth is costly. It involves the leaving behind of an old way of being in the world. Often it involves, at least for… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“A writer has to strain to make the reader recover the process in the words 'human being'; we talk about 'a being' and 'beings.'… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
