“When you notice someone does something toxic the first time, don't wait for the second time before you address it or cut them off. Many survivors are used to the "wait and see" tactic which only leaves them vulnerable to… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“the same time, a relationship with a narcissist is also a cataclysmic rude awakening into the fact that people are rarely who they portray themselves to be. It’s knowledge. It’s experience. It’s insight and wisdom—perhaps the kind you wish you didn’t have. Sometimes, it’s even social capital—enabling you to navigate even more intelligently and with more discernment than ever before.… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share
“along. See, narcissists don’t truly feel empathy for others – so during the discard phase, they often feel absolutely nothing for you except the… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“What’s important to remember is that while human beings in general can engage in toxic behaviors from time to time, abusers use these manipulation… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“The more power they have over your emotions, the less likely you’ll trust your own reality and the truth about the abuse you’re enduring. Knowing the manipulative tactics and how they work to erode your sense of self can arm you with the knowledge of what you’re facing and at the very least, develop a plan to retain control over… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share
“Triangulation Healthy relationships thrive on security; unhealthy ones are filled with provocation, uncertainty and infidelity. Narcissists like to manufacture love triangles and bring in… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“Dissociation leaves us disconnected from our memories, our identities and our emotions. It breaks the trauma into digestible components, so that different aspects of the trauma get stored in different compartments in our brain. What happens as a result is that the information from the trauma becomes disorganized and we are not able to integrate these pieces into a coherent… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share
“Their manipulation is psychological and emotionally devastating – and very dangerous, especially considering the brain circuitry for emotional and physical pain are one and the same (Kross, 2011). What a victim feels when they are punched in the stomach can be similar to the pain a victim feels when they are verbally and emotionally abused, and the effects of narcissistic… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share
“Keep interactions as short as possible; you can be cordial, but do not engage. Narcissists are master provocateurs who will subject you to dizzying diversion tactics to make you feel off-center and off-balance. That’s why you must understand when you are being manipulated and stay focused on your real goals. If your goal is to do your best work at… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share
“The fact of the matter is, if you haven’t been in an abusive relationship, you don’t really know what the experience is like. Furthermore, it’s quite hard to predict what you would do in the same situation. I find that the people most vocal about what they would’ve done in the same situation often have no clue what they are… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share
“A child that’s being abused by its parents doesn’t stop loving its parents, it stops loving itself.” — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“In the book Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie, the method of triangulation is discussed as a popular way the narcissist maintains control over your… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
“Triangulation is the way the narcissist maintains control and keeps you in check — you’re so busy competing for his or her attention that… — Shahida Arabi Copy Share Image
