“American culture quite naturally provides these ideological supports to those it favors and elects as fellow participants in the social and psychological institutions which regulate its established arrangements. Essentially, these favored persons have been middle-class white men. A middle-class white… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
Successfully functioning in a society with diverse values, traditions and lifestyles requires us to have a relationship to our own reactions rather than be… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“The struggle of the sexes to know each other, to see each other, and to communicate deeply - a struggle which may be more a feature of adult life in the West than at any time in the past - may rest in the capacity of men and women to learn the universal language they share, an evolutionary esperanto, the… — Robert Kegan Copy Share
“Although I have suggested that American culture tends to favor the side of independence over the side of inclusion (and I would extend that to Western culture in general), it is not a generalization that seems to apply uniformly to men and women in our culture. Indeed, although I have no idea why it may be, it seems to me… — Robert Kegan Copy Share
It is not change that causes anxiety; it is the feeling that we are without defenses in the presence of what we see as… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“But what can be found can also be lost. The process of differentiation, creating the possibility of integration, brings into being the lifelong theme… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“If you want to understand another person in some fundamental way you must know where the person is in his or her evolution...the way… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“While the emergence from embeddedness in the interpersonal frees one from the subjectivity of constructing one's morality on the bases of arbitrary affections and… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“Depression characterized by the 'threat-to' orientation lodges itself in one side of the proposition. Doing so does not eliminate doubt, it only places it in the world. The world has become doubtful; what I doubt is my capacity to continue living in such a world. I doubt whether I can make it given how things are. I experience a kind… — Robert Kegan Copy Share
“It is easy for us to delude ourselves into thinking that our notions of the healthy person are unbiased by our particular circumstances or… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“Instead of regarding them as things that just need to go away, we look at the behaviors as a precious resource, valuable information that… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“All growth is costly. It involves the leaving behind of an old way of being in the world. Often it involves, at least for… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
“A writer has to strain to make the reader recover the process in the words 'human being'; we talk about 'a being' and 'beings.'… — Robert Kegan Copy Share Image
