“Because there’s no formal etiquette for ending a friendship, most people do it in the laziest, most passive and painless way possible, by unilaterally dropping any effort to sustain it and letting the other person figure it out for themselves.… — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“Because the essence of creativity is fucking around; art is that which is done for the hell of it.” — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“Perhaps the reason we so often experience happiness only in hindsight, and that chasing it is such a fool’s errand, is that happiness isn’t a goal in itself but is only an aftereffect. It’s the consequence of having lived in the way that we’re supposed to — by which I don’t mean ethically correctly so much as just consciously, fully… — Tim Kreider Copy Share
“The same thing that makes friendship so valuable is what makes it so tenuous: it is purely voluntary. You enter into it freely, without… — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“It’s always a sad revelation when a good friend acquires a girlfriend or a husband and disappears. You realize that, for them, your friendship… — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“When somebody tells us something that would be disturbing or inconvenient for us to believe, we reflexively scrutinize that” — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“Biblical, Talmudic, or Koranic literalists remind me of children wrinkling their noses at Belon oysters and asking for more Chef Boy-E-Dee. They want the world to be as simple as they are.” — Tim Kreider Copy Share
“It’s easy to demonstrate how progressive and open-minded and loyal you are when it costs you nothing.” — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“Most of us liberals are so worried that we might secretly be racists that we’re convinced this means we cannot really be racists.)” — Tim Kreider Copy Share Image
“What someone’s lies reveal about them (aspirations to being an accomplished writer, fantasies of an exotic history and a cosmopolitan family) are always sadder than the fact of the lies themselves. These inventions illuminate the negative spaces of someone’s self-image, their vanity and insecurities and most childish wishes, as we can infer from warped starlight the presence of a far… — Tim Kreider Copy Share