“the abuser's desire to abuse is not created by the child - it is there before the child appears” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
“the abuser's desire to abuse is not created by the child - it is there before the child appears” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
“Survivors are damaged to different degrees by their experiences. This does not depend on what happened physically. A Survivor who has been raped will not necessarily be more damaged than a Survivor who has been touched. The degree of damage depend on the degree of traumatic sexualization, stigmatization, betrayal and powerlessness, the child has experienced. This in turn depends on… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“I can't get myself to say what happened next. I cannot cope with even thinking about this let alone living with it." "It is so degrading and I try to forget, it hurts so much because she is my mother." - Graham talks about being sexually abused by his mother” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“I am disgusted that I was often taken into their bed and told to do things to both of them. The things a decent parent wouldn't think of. I didn't know that having sex with her or with him was wrong because I'd never known anything else but I never understood why it used to hurt so much. It carried… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“Like Jocelyn, Survivors often think: * That’s just the way I am * I’m not lovable, that’s why I keep having disastrous relationships * I’m not very clever, that’s why I didn’t do well at school * I’m a loner * I’m a weak person * I’m not very nice * I was a difficult child Many survivors find it… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“Many Survivors blame themselves for the abuse and continue to feel responsible and guilty for anything bad that happens to them or to other… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
