“Many Survivors blame themselves for the abuse and continue to feel responsible and guilty for anything bad that happens to them or to other people they know. Survivors often feel bad about themselves and different from other people. They therefore… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
“the abuser's desire to abuse is not created by the child - it is there before the child appears” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
“Survivors are damaged to different degrees by their experiences. This does not depend on what happened physically. A Survivor who has been raped will not necessarily be more damaged than a Survivor who has been touched. The degree of damage depend on the degree of traumatic sexualization, stigmatization, betrayal and powerlessness, the child has experienced. This in turn depends on… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“I can't get myself to say what happened next. I cannot cope with even thinking about this let alone living with it." "It is so degrading and I try to forget, it hurts so much because she is my mother." - Graham talks about being sexually abused by his mother” — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“I am disgusted that I was often taken into their bed and told to do things to both of them. The things a decent parent wouldn't think of. I didn't know that having sex with her or with him was wrong because I'd never known anything else but I never understood why it used to hurt so much. It carried… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“Like Jocelyn, Survivors often think: * That’s just the way I am * I’m not lovable, that’s why I keep having disastrous relationships * I’m not very clever, that’s why I didn’t do well at school * I’m a loner * I’m a weak person * I’m not very nice * I was a difficult child Many survivors find it… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share
“Many Survivors blame themselves for the abuse and continue to feel responsible and guilty for anything bad that happens to them or to other… — Carolyn Ainscough Copy Share Image
